September 2025 - Status

My current status is as follows .... I have three wonderful partners all into kink, use, training, and discussions about our relationship dynamics and other subjects ... yes they are my submissives each with a slave heart to some degree. One has been with me for 15 years, another for 18 years, and another for more than 26 years. They come to see me because they seek my skill set and because they have a strong need for use, learning, and increasing their endurance levels. I am single out of choice. I'm poly. My partners adhere to honest communication, nothing hidden, and to never entertain any jealousy whatsoever. I allow each quite the freedom in their own lives which they respect because they know I generally approve. Tho they are encouraged to bring to me any concerns for discussion. I am non-invasive with them meaning we don't engage in direct sexual contact. It's part of your dynamics. Of course, they are allowed to have sexual contact with others as long as they take precautions. Such dynamics I have crafted with each have been what holds us together. Growth happens over time as well and we talk about having it under control as a matter of shared agreements. They are not my robots or doormats. We work together to make it work tho each knows who is their primary source. 

I have a playroom now. It's small but intimate. Scenes are spontaneously choreographed, adjusted as I go along, and the partner in play can ride the scene in a dynamic we established before it, away from me during it, to the music I am playing, or within their own minds throughout it. Aftercare is applied as needed because some don't need it at times.... and that's ok. Trust is paramount in our relationships. Consent and consent to non-consent play is a focus in all things. They like that I know when to stop and accept that while they could go further that I need to stop.  I am Master, Sir, Top, Dom and just that guy who takes the reigns in scenes as needed. However, there are some parts of play where I push hard to raise endurance levels to which they have no say. This they accept because internally they are driven to endure the challenge to push their boundaries and release their fears over it.  

In September I dropped out of Fetlife. It's been way too vanilla of late. And I no longer need the platform since so much is available elsewhere to find out about kink events and clubs and to get toys. Fetlife was of value when I was active in the bdsm communities in the PNW and in BC, Canada. I quit public play back in 2015.  Most of the people I knew in the Seattle area all have moved on to their own interests outside of public kink. Some have retired to a more private arena. I play at home and at private parties. 

I will still run my blog here and for, of course, as an official site for the "128 Rules for the female slave". 

JK