i am so sorry Master

Master, 
this morning i did what You desired of me. 
i knelt at the foot of my bed
spread my thighs apart
reached over and set the timer 
for the time You allowed me

i cupped one breast 
and then the other
i pinched one nipple
twisting it as i pulled upward
as high as i could without letting go
and then 
just let it drop
and then did it to my other breast
i did it over and over again
till my nipples ached

checking the timer
i must hurry now
for i have more to do for you

i ran my middle finger over my clit
running circles around it
sliding now and then into my vagina
i did this over and over 
in and out
back and forth
and i just got wetter and wetter
and that damn clock
the ticking got louder and louder
damn it i thought

i worked myself frantically
i was running out of time
i really did try not to go over the time you allowed
but i failed ....throwing that fucking clock across the room.

i am so sorry Master
i just kept going till I exploded 

i lost it completely
carried away by temptation
i had broken my bond with You
damn it......

Please Master....
make me pay dearly for this
Please Master.....please....
don't ignore me like the last time
rather make me hurt there
so i remember to act 
according to Your Will
and never to my own
ever again

Taken by Master

He takes my wrists from behind my neck
and binds them at the base of my back

He places a collar around my neck
to make it impossible for me to nod

He snaps the lock closed
and i drop deeper into my place

He attaches the short silver chain to the ring in front
gives it a sudden tug to get my attention 

He points to his feet
and i just drop into a kneel
my lips so close to His boot
the chain pulling so tightly

And He tells me 
'beg for it'
and softly i say 'please Master'
and then
He drops the chain 
my lips drop to his boot
and i kiss lightly
careful not to lick
ignoring my hunger tempting to take me
for this.... 
is only the beginning

I Must Confess.....

Yes Master, it is true:  i have been bad. 
Naughty i have been.
i have brought defilement upon myself. 
no one must look upon me....even You. 

Make me earn Your forgiveness
teach me through discipline
punish me hard
make me hurt
and feel Your disappointment
no matter my tears
nor my cries
no matter how loud i scream
no matter how much i beg you to stop
for what i have done without You....
i need to suffer 
until i can once again
feel the touch of Your eyes
upon my flesh
hear Your words in my mind
until i remember....
that i must ask first 
before i can have my wetness  
flow down my thighs

How You Can Tell If A Woman is Submissive

I've been asked a lot ....how can you tell if she is submissive. And I've said:

• If you tell her where to sit and she does it and she's still there when you return...then she's submissive. 
• If you tell her to pick out a book from a certain bookcase to show you ...as you sit there waiting for it...and she brings one to you....then she's submissive.
• If she's the one doing all the talking among a group of friends...well maybe....she's likely dominant around friends and at work, but prefers to be submissive at home. 
• If she's forward and outgoing and always says yes to the choices you pick out...then she's submissive. 
• If she defers to you most of the time to make decisions....she's submissive. 
• If she doesn't object to the decisions you make, but follow them without hesitation....she's submissive. 
• If she greets you at the door looking rather sultry and dressed in a manner she knows you'll like...she's a submissive. 

There are a lot to look at in her behavior. So if you see or think her actions might indicate she is submissive....direct her more often and see what happens. Play with that. Be direct with her every step of the way...'tell me about that', 'what does that feel like to you', 'come here and tell me again'.

True story:   I asked a gal working at an adult upscale retail store that if a guy walked up to her and said this:  "Hi, I'm Dave. We are going out on Wednesday night. I am picking you up here at 8pm. Be ready...I'll be coming to take you. I have reservations at a place for dinner in Bellevue. Don't disappoint. We have a private space at the restaurant just for us. Dress for conservatively for the evening." ....and she said: 'Oh God....if I could only find a man like that. I really have grown tired of a guy picking me up and then asking me where I would like to eat for the evening." 

So consider....when you ask a woman out ....don't. Tell her instead. And when you pick her up....do so having already made the decision on where to eat. The last thing these women want is having to make the decisions on a date where some guy asked them out.

Be Direct on the First Meet Up

If you are seeking a woman who is submissive....and you are meeting women to find one...by all means....be an adult, be direct and say that you are seeking a submissive woman who wants to explore it with you. Tell her what you want, what kind of top you are, what your needs are when it comes to getting close. Don't be afraid ....because if she can't handle it...you know you need to look for that woman who can. Don't use the slide-in technique where you date a bunch and then bring it up thinking she will be more likely to be open about it...because you might and she might be quite disappointed...tho sometimes that works. But seriously, the slide-in is a long haul.

So how do you start this? Ask this question:  What kind of sex play have you always wanted to do or do more of? Then see where that goes. If it is going in the direction that sounds intriguing to you...keep staying on that topic for specifics. If not, say 'thank you ...but you're not whom I am seeking' or something like that. Now if she asks for more specifics....spill them, see where it goes. 

Remember....you are seeking a submissive woman....don't pass go or collect your dollars, don't wait...get what you need.You have to step out of your comfort zone I know....and you have to work at this. 

These women, by the way, are not just in the bdsm clubs...they are at the street fair, the local grocer, the post office standing in line with you, at work where you work, in the community center, at the beach.....in your church....and it's Christian churches where I found a few. 

There is risk....but it's worth it...and it won't land you in some hate threads or behind bars. Talk openly and descriptive about it. Start off with something like this: 'I'm really into submissive women who love to please and make their man happy.' ....and see where that goes. 

Good luck. Unfortunately, the destruct button is broken.

Eye Candy

When I look at female eye candy....I'm looking at what I can do with their body parts. I'm not looking for a replacement for my play partners or my primaries. I'm looking to add to whom I have to play with.

I'm looking for:

• Who will mark well when I flog and whip them
• Who will look good in rope when I bind them or do a full body rope harness on
• Who will look good kneeling nude and in waiting...eager to be of service
• Who can be kept naked to decorate my room with
• What their breasts will look like when I bind them at the base ...how nice to touch, fondle and make oh so round and bulging for viewing....how they show emotion, their endurance
• How they will look in high heels, a short skirt, and a halter top
• How they look in an evening gown for a night out

So things like that....how well might be able to be submissive or taught to endure how I will use them. 

Eye candy....what does their figure look like in various outfits?

Eye candy....how do they move their body while struggling in restraints?

Eye candy....what do they sound like?

Eye candy....how might they be able to present their body for my pleasure in viewing them?

I'm looking at how clean they are, what they smell like if I am close enough....not that I am sniffing, just that ...if I notice a perfume they might have on. 

I'm looking at where their bare thighs touch. 

I'm looking at the clothing they are wearing and how it fits them and what it might look like if there were bound underneath with thread, yarn or soft rope. 

I'm imagining what their hair looks like if it were undone from being up. 

I'm looking at the shape of their ass underneath that skirt, that long skirt, that bikini bottom they have on. 

I'm making a guess at the bra they have on, those curves they have, those panty outlines they have.

Eye Candy....what strikes me about them that distracts me from whatever I am doing. 

Eye Candy...that says HOT loudly.

Eye Candy....that says come get me. 

Eye Candy...that says I get a glimpse, but you'll have to come meet me if you want more. 

Eye Candy...in a backwards baseball cap with alluring lips and a quaint smile wondering what it is about me looking at her. 

Eye Candy....I'm wondering what she will be like with a vaginal and a butt plug in her as she sits to try to eat without making a movement that might cause a rain. 

I'm looking at her makeup, her lipstick, her foundation, her eyelashes...and I'm wondering if she knew the 'source' of permission ....how she would then apply it. 

I'm looking at her breasts without her knowing I am and watching if those nipples are becoming erect right there because ....

I'm wondering what her fuzz short hair feels like as I tilt her head back. 

I'm wondering what it would be like to wash her long blond, brunette, red hair....feeling the strands between my fingers....wondering what she will do when I pull her head back by the back of her head as I grip her hair. 

Eye Candy....does she walk and wear it well that everyone notices except her?

I'm looking at eye candy to imagine not if I had her, but if she she knows she is in the red dress in a black and white world....crossing my path. If she does....I have captured her.

Putting Her to Bed With You

When you are ready to go to bed....you tell your girl to go and get ready first.....and tell her to be naked and kneeling at the foot of the bed such that she, if allowed, will be looking at the headboard end of the bed....tell her that when kneeling there to have her hands behind her back.

Now then....when you come to the bedroom to go to bed - get in, get comfortable. And then tell her to crawl up to you without looking at you directly. And then tell her exactly where you want her by you. Watch her as she crawls of the bed and crawls to you. Is she doing it the way you like her doing it? Do you have a chore for her to do....perhaps oral on you? She's there for you, for bedtime. Make her like a hungry woman seeking prey.....and take her when you want her sleeping at your side. Or....finish with her and tell her to sleep on the floor next to you. It's your choice. She's yours.

Pulling Her Hair Back To Get Her Hot

Open your hand with space between your fingers.....grab your girl, whose backside is toward you, with your other hand around her waist (her front) and hold her backside or side of her torso close to you. Now take your open hand and place it with fingertips pointing up at the base of her neck (back of her head). Mover your hand slowly upwards against her head being careful not to tangle or pull hair such that it would hurt her....and as you get your palm up to the base of the head before going over to the top of the head.....close your fingers some and then curl the upper parts of the fingers as you grab the hair and then ....start to pull and slowly pulling her head back...not yanking...but to pull back slowly....and to, as you are pulling, slightly turn her head such that her face is towards yours....and then hold....then slowly let go of the grip, but keep your hand in her hair and do it again....only this time kiss her as passionately as she responds. Do this process just right and you have found a very excited woman.

Take Her Under Your Control

Strip her and lay her down on the floor with feet towards you. Tell her to open her legs. You're sitting on the ground or in a chair. Take your single tail or flogger and give her one hard strike such that it hits her cunt good and hard. She'll likely scream....and during that moment...you say to her rather sternly this: 'get over here right now...do it...over to me right now so that I can hold you during your pain'. Do not go to her. She must crawl to you in her pain. When she gets to you....pull her to you close....hold on to her and tell her she will never get another one of those again UNLESS she misbehaves. Continue to hold her and whisper to her how special she is that she went through this for you.

Washing Nylon Rope - Like the White Ropes

This is rather simple....take your rope and put it into a pillow case and tie the open end closed ....or use a laundry bag that's closable. Throw that into your wash. Use a smaller amount of soap and wash. Then you can also put it into the dryer till dry. No...it's not gonna melt.

Two Girl Bondage....Making the Other Wet

So you have two gals standing back to back. Take a rope and double it and wrap around the waist of one....around the backside to the front to pull the doubled rope with the ends hanging through the loop of the other end and let hang there between the legs. On the other gal do the same thing. 

Now....on one gal....knot the rope such that the knot lays over her clit and pull the ropes then through between the inner lips to between the legs and up to the waist rope of the other gal - at her backside and connect to that rope and tie a knot there. Do the same with the waist rope of the other gal....tying a knot to lay over her clit, down between the inner lips, through her legs and up to the waist rope of the other gal tying a knot there at her backside. 

Now...if one moves forward some....the other gets the stimulation on her. And if the other resists and moves forward....she will stimulate the other gal. 

Such a tie arrangement can be in place with other bondage. Have fun!!

Deep in the Forest

Deep in the forest
lies beauty to behold,

Allow the lights to lead you

for the forest has much to offer
for your delights,
and there are many.

But you must not bring anything with you

into the forest,
the lights would leave if you did,
the forest would darken
and there would be nothing
for you to see.

Remember: I am with you

in the forest.

You've Seen her Cross Your Path

the submissive is different then all the rest of those in the world.....she's crossed your path many times. she doesn't blend in with the crowds......she's noticeable....but only if you are looking to catch her.

she might be the one with all the bags from designer stores. 

she might be the one getting her way with the people around her....because she has to move them out of the way.....and you know why. 

it's as if everyone is dressed in black and white....and she....well, she is the one in the red full length dress with the white polka dots on it.....she's got those high heels on you can't hardly see how she can walk in....she's the one with the perfect hair....she's got a white pearl necklace on like it's a collar....close to her neck...in fact, everything about her looks perfect....and instead of walking with the flow of people in one direction....she crosses through them as if they aren't there. 

And the only reason she stops in her tracks and looks at you is because she and you 'felt' each other's presence....and the longer she looks at you is because she's waiting for your response....and that's the time you turn away and leave....because by doing that you are telling her she's not ready to be taken yet.....and that she has to wait.....

till next time.....and there will be a next time....she knows it.... because now you've caught her.

Questions to Ask a Master Before You Decide to Submit to Him

1. A Day With You - What is a day like with you in role and what is a day like with you out of role? Detail should include something a bit more than just "Well, we get in the morning and have breakfast and then I do some bondage with you and give you a list of chores," or "I'm a funny guy that loves exploring new things with a wonderful female."

2.  A Difficult Scene - What is the most difficult scene you have ever done and why and what did you learn from it?

3.  Punishment - What is the most elaborate or most difficult punishment you had ever given, why did you give it, what did it accomplish and what did you learn from it? What would you had done differently next time?

4.  Safety Philosophy - Could you elaborate on your interpretation of "Safe, Sane and Consensual", "Responsible, Respectful, and Trusting", "Risk Aware Consensual Kink" ? Which one do you follow? Or do you follow something else when it comes to being responsible for safety....yours and mine?

5.  Aftercare - Could you explain how you perform 'aftercare'? Or why you don't?

6.  Cues - What are 'cues' in a scene? How do you know how to progress in a scene....intensity, tools to change to, rest periods between?

7.  Identification Needed - If I decide to meet you are you prepared to tell me ahead of time how I can contact you, your full real name, where you live and work, your home and cell numbers, references?

8.  Meetings - Are you willing to meet with me several times before we play together if I so choose?

9.  It’s My Decision - Are you willing to accept that I am not your submissive until " I " make the decision to be such a person to you or when " I " decide to ask you if I could be such a person for you, and that " I " will not be acting or  being a submissive until I feel comfortable in so doing before that decision to serve, obey or please you is made by ' me '? And I choose to do that....what will you do?

10.  Nurturing - How do you nurture a submissive to build trust and the desire in her to continue to submit to you? Do you micro-manage her? Do you build on what you find out about her potential? Do you lay down rules for her to follow? Do you provide guidance along the way? Do we do timeouts to discuss progress and problems?

11.  Why Top Others? - Why do you do this and what do you get out of it?

12. Safewords - Do you use safewords? If so...what ones to you like to use? When are they allowed? How do you like them expressed to you? Do you always allow them? Will you always respect them? Can I give them up?

13. Health Issues - How do you handle those with health issues? Give me some examples?

14. Won’t Do - What won't you do?

15. Dream Scenes - What do you want to do to a slave that you haven't yet?

16. Peeves - What are your pet peeves about a person? How do you manage them if you choose to continue to play with them?

17. Food and Drink - How do you initiate replenishing of a submissive under your control and during play?

18. Play Types - What are the differences between M/s, D/s, T/b play? What works best for you? Do you play with those who are different than your typical kind of play style? Is what you do play, role-play, or lifestyle?

19. Orchestration - How do you orchestrate a scene from start to finish?

20. Sex and Orgasm – Are these important to you? Do you need them? Do you provide these to your slave? And if not, why?

Using Knives on the Body

I can't emphasize enough how dangerous knives can be on the body....but there are some ways to use them in a manner that can be safe....and it will take a lot of control on your part as a top. 

Key Items:  Keep your knives clean. Sterilize if you can. Clean the body you will use it on: Use an anti-microbial....alcohol minimal. Clean the body surface after play. Clean the knives after play. 

1. Know Your Knife....the weight of it in your hand holding it by the handle, the sharpness of the blade (single or dual), if it can cut and how easily. 
2. Test It ....on paper before you test it on skin. See how to drag the sharp and dull edge...what it does. 
3. Learn to Control the Pressure on the Tip (opposite the handle)....but how you position the angle of it. Hold the handle with the blade down....tip lower than the handle level. Place the tip on paper. If you lower the handle closer to the paper....the impact down is not so much. If you raise the handle....the pressure on the tip increases. 
4. Learn First Aid....because if your knife cuts....you'll need to know how to close a wound, to clean it, what meds to use, and bandage it. Have a bit of common sense and decency to not use a knife in a manner you can't handle. 
5. Not Just the Edge of the Blade....using a knife on the body isn't just about running the blade or tip of the knife on the body. It's also about using an the length of an edge at an angle (in reference to the opposite side of the blade) to scrap on the body surface. How you angle that edge will determine the pressure on it. Higher up the angle....more pressure. Lower...less pressure. And you can scrap with either the sharp edge or dull. Run it carefully. Look at what you are doing. Be ready if the bottom jerks so you can quickly move the knife off the body.
6. Sharp Blade Down on the Body....yes, you can put the sharp edge of the blade down (length) on the body surface as long as you know just how sharp it is. The skin is quite resistant...more than you might realize. Light pressure at first. Harder pressure, but not too much....and only if the sharp edge is slightly dull....NOT razor sharp. Hold the blade firmly on the skin with palm flat over dull edge as you push down. Backsides work best for this. DO NOT DRAG or SCRAP when doing this or the knife will cut.

Paddles Aren't Just for Paddling

I have a three-ply walnut three foot long paddle. And I rarely use it like a paddle. 

So what do I use it for?

Massage. 

But when I pick it up....well....it's a bit threatening. 

I use the face of the paddle part of the paddle to run across the body....like a backside, a thigh, across the chest, over the ass cheeks. I put some pressure down on it. I tilt the face and run the edge over the body part I am working on. 

Go ahead and try it. Find different ways to use it. 

I use the end of it ....the edge to pull across the body. 

I bounce the edge of it off the body to work a muscle area. 

I vary an edge and drop the angle to the face to smooth an area. 

Flogging Isn't Just for Stand Up

That's right. 

A lot of people think you can only flog someone when they are standing up. But actually you can use a flogger on a person who is laying down. And you can do a bit more that you can't do when a person is standing up. And you can use more than one flogger and up to about two or three in each hand.

1. Roll It.... Lay the flogger across the width of the person laying down. Now turn the handle so the falls roll up and down as you go over the body. 
2. Drag It ...Lay down the flogger tails on the body and drag it over the body. You can do this from the side over the width of the torso and legs. You can drag from the feet to the head and back. It will feel like dozens of soft fingertips. It will be quite relaxing.
3. Straddle the bottom ....get up on the item the person is laying down on and straddle them like at the area below the knees as the bottom is facing down. Grab the handle of the flogger with one or two hands and bring it up over your shoulders and down on the backside. 
4. Use Two Floggers ....lay down two and using a twist of your hands flip the falls of both up and down over the body. Get a hang of spreading the tails across the body. Change the intensity of the impacts. 
5. Use Two or More Floggers in Each Hand....drag them over the body. If you drag from feet up....do so till all the tails are over the head of the bottom. Leave them there for a bit and tell the bottom to breath in....it'll create a euphoric high from the smell of the leather. 

If You Are Going To Use a Single Tail.....Be Creative

1. Slash ten inches across the body. It's like the beginning of a lay down that you are wisking away....from the end touch to the middle to the other end touch of a lenght....not a full down length.
2. Drag...land a strike and quickly drag it. Think of the landing as if it were to stay on the skin surface and you drag by a pull away.
3. Snap the Cracker....but only for an impact of the wisp of air to be felt by the bottom. Sometimes the crack sound is enough to start the orgasmic response.
4. Brush the last couple of inches of the cracker on the skin .....across it...moving that cracker back and forth. It's a light touch.
5. Bunt....this is not a full snap, but a bunt, a kind of thud sound....it's when the cracker doesn't actually hit on the fall....but where the last 15 inches has curved to snap on the weaved part of the fall not the cracker on the upper fall area.
6. Bounce....this is when the upper fall area about 10 or so inches hits the body, but doesn't hit to line it, but where you cause it to bonce off the body.
7. Wrap....throw the tail so it wraps around the body (intended strike area), and there is a light snap....not too hard as that can take a chunk of skin out.
8. Snap Ahead, then Wrap. This takes a bit of practice. The idea is that the length goes past the body....on the side of the bottom....snaps in front of her and on a pull after the snap...wraps around her waist....and after the wrap you can pull to unravel the wrap. This technique leaves no marks.
9. Use Two Single Tails....be sure to line up the lengths before you strike. Try three, try four.
10. No Impact, No Snap, Just Snaking It....the bottom is laying down and you're going to lay the full length on the body and pull it by the handle on the body....wherever it leads....like perhaps between the legs, up the torse,  moving it around and down the body again.

Loving the Tail

So there he is....tied to a rack and I'm single tailing his back side.....you know....he's never been. And then I stop after a few slashes. And I walk up to him and I say this:

How you doing?

And he says:

What
was
that?

And I say:  That's a single tail. 

And he says:

I want
more
of that.

The Railroad Yard on a Cold Night

You've picked her up.....she's wearing a long coat.....and on your way to the bdsm club....you skip it....Instead you tell her that you're up for some outdoor play. You drive her to a railroad yard along some main drive. You park....walk around the front of the car so she watches you....you open her door and tell her to get out. You grab her hand and walk out to the yard....to a fence. And when you get her about three to five feet from it....her back to the fence....you smile and then .......slam her up against the fence and plant a big kiss on her....passionately. You open her coat, rip top down her top and hold her with your hand on her chest while you use your other hand to pop a knife to cut off her bra and then....you ravage her, embrace....and if she tries to talk you plant another kiss on her. 

When  you finish....you start walking away from her....you turn and you say this:

Clean yourself up and get back in the car.

Crack That Single Tail Above

That's right....you sit in a chair and crack a single tail above her telling her to take off all her clothes or you'll lower the whip .......

When she's done....when she's naked.....stop the cracking and tell her to come to you....the way you need her to.....

Set Up, Get Your Partner, Ask If They Need to Use the Bathroom....Before Playing

After you've decided to play....go get set up. Make your bottom wait for you to get set up. After you've got everything ready ....go get your partner, bring her or him over, look directly in their eyes....and ask this: do you need to use the bathroom? If so....off they go. If not, take off their clothes, put on the wrist and ankle cuffs and tie them to the rack....if that's what your using. YOU are now ready to get this scene off and running. 

Now the reason you make your partner wait while you set up is start up that apprehension in your bottom....what you might do to her or him. That apprehension will start the level you need to ramp up to the level you want to get them too. 

Remember....go slow up the grade....the bottom can usually take more. No surprises....otherwise you'll cause a split in their journey....ramp up....and when you think you have your bottom close...give a breather, a caress....for assurance and building trust. Then start up the ramp again.

Clean Up Before Sex

I can't emphasize this enough.....clean up before having sex. Clean up your cock and balls. Clean up your vaginal area. Clean up anally. Wash up. Nobody likes bad smells, dirt, bad bacteria. Besides.....washing each other before having sex can be a bit fun.