1. A Day With You - What is a day like with you in role and what is a
day like with you out of role? Detail should include something a bit more than
just "Well, we get in the morning and have breakfast and then I do some
bondage with you and give you a list of chores," or "I'm a funny guy
that loves exploring new things with a wonderful female."
2. A Difficult Scene - What is the most difficult scene you have ever done and why and what did you learn from it?
3. Punishment - What is the most elaborate or most difficult punishment you had ever given, why did you give it, what did it accomplish and what did you learn from it? What would you had done differently next time?
4. Safety Philosophy - Could you elaborate on your interpretation of "Safe, Sane and Consensual", "Responsible, Respectful, and Trusting", "Risk Aware Consensual Kink" ? Which one do you follow? Or do you follow something else when it comes to being responsible for safety....yours and mine?
5. Aftercare - Could you explain how you perform 'aftercare'? Or why you don't?
6. Cues - What are 'cues' in a scene? How do you know how to progress in a scene....intensity, tools to change to, rest periods between?
7. Identification Needed - If I decide to meet you are you prepared to tell me ahead of time how I can contact you, your full real name, where you live and work, your home and cell numbers, references?
8. Meetings - Are you willing to meet with me several times before we play together if I so choose?
9. It’s My Decision - Are you willing to accept that I am not your submissive until " I " make the decision to be such a person to you or when " I " decide to ask you if I could be such a person for you, and that " I " will not be acting or being a submissive until I feel comfortable in so doing before that decision to serve, obey or please you is made by ' me '? And I choose to do that....what will you do?
10. Nurturing - How do you nurture a submissive to build trust and the desire in her to continue to submit to you? Do you micro-manage her? Do you build on what you find out about her potential? Do you lay down rules for her to follow? Do you provide guidance along the way? Do we do timeouts to discuss progress and problems?
11. Why Top Others? - Why do you do this and what do you get out of it?
12. Safewords - Do you use safewords? If so...what ones to you like to use? When are they allowed? How do you like them expressed to you? Do you always allow them? Will you always respect them? Can I give them up?
13. Health Issues - How do you handle those with health issues? Give me some examples?
14. Won’t Do - What won't you do?
15. Dream Scenes - What do you want to do to a slave that you haven't yet?
16. Peeves - What are your pet peeves about a person? How do you manage them if you choose to continue to play with them?
17. Food and Drink - How do you initiate replenishing of a submissive under your control and during play?
18. Play Types - What are the differences between M/s, D/s, T/b play? What works best for you? Do you play with those who are different than your typical kind of play style? Is what you do play, role-play, or lifestyle?
19. Orchestration - How do you orchestrate a scene from start to finish?
20. Sex and Orgasm – Are these important to you? Do you need them? Do you provide these to your slave? And if not, why?
