If you are seeking a woman who is submissive....and you are meeting women to find one...by all means....be an adult, be direct and say that you are seeking a submissive woman who wants to explore it with you. Tell her what you want, what kind of top you are, what your needs are when it comes to getting close. Don't be afraid ....because if she can't handle it...you know you need to look for that woman who can. Don't use the slide-in technique where you date a bunch and then bring it up thinking she will be more likely to be open about it...because you might and she might be quite disappointed...tho sometimes that works. But seriously, the slide-in is a long haul.
So how do you start this? Ask this question: What kind of sex play have you always wanted to do or do more of? Then see where that goes. If it is going in the direction that sounds intriguing to you...keep staying on that topic for specifics. If not, say 'thank you ...but you're not whom I am seeking' or something like that. Now if she asks for more specifics....spill them, see where it goes.
Remember....you are seeking a submissive woman....don't pass go or collect your dollars, don't wait...get what you need.You have to step out of your comfort zone I know....and you have to work at this.
These women, by the way, are not just in the bdsm clubs...they are at the street fair, the local grocer, the post office standing in line with you, at work where you work, in the community center, at the beach.....in your church....and it's Christian churches where I found a few.
There is risk....but it's worth it...and it won't land you in some hate threads or behind bars. Talk openly and descriptive about it. Start off with something like this: 'I'm really into submissive women who love to please and make their man happy.' ....and see where that goes.
Good luck. Unfortunately, the destruct button is broken.
